Being the wife of a minister can be extremely rewarding, but also extremely tough. The long hours that your husband gives to the church and others can make you feel like you are being cheated on by the church….the ministry is his mistress. We had reached a point in our marriage that I believe many do at some point…we were roommates….not lovers…not all that close anymore friends…we bickered more than we discussed…the passionate love had faded and all we had was this facade that we maintained for the sake of the ministry. I searched the scriptures to prove to my hubby he was sinning for not showering me with love and romancing me as the Bible says. I was all ready armed with the Bible to tell him of his sins and bring him to his knees in repentance and confessing his undying love for me…at least that was my plan. But as I opened my Bible and opened to Eph 5:22-33, God drew my eyes and my heart to a very profound truth that I had ignored for nearly 10 years of marriage….although the majority of Eph 5:22-33 was addressed to the husbands and dealing with them on how they are to love their wives…those verses were sandwiched between verses that were more directed to the wife. Vs. 22 starts the section on the Godly marriage model with – “Wives submit to your husbands…” (Eph 5:22) and ends the set of verses with “….the wife must respect her husband.” (Eph 5:33) All the verses that are directed to husbands and commanding him to love we as much as God loves the church, telling him to care for his care, and love her! God opened my eyes to the fact that for a wife to obtain that kind of love that we crave and desire…then we must submit and respect our husbands…even if they don’t deserve it or love us as we feel they should…or if they the perfect husband that we all dream of…we are called and commanded to respect and submit to them in a Godly manner. I have been learning how to do so…it has been a tough challenge, I have had to rethink my perception what those two words truly mean…to learn that they are not signs of a weak woman, but that they take more strength than I have ever had to carry them out and properly apply them to my marriage and my life….but though it…my marriage and the love and passion we once shared as been rekindled. We are best friends and lovers again…we are partners that serve together. God has opened my heart and mind to see things in a whole new way. I still struggle often as you will see through this blog and often times fall flat on my face…but I am learning and God is restoring and rekindling my marriage.
I am starting this blog as a way to share my journey to become a Ephesian 5:22-33 wife and a Titus 2 woman. It has not been an easy journey but it has been very fulfilling. Please pray for me as I start this new adventure that I feel God has been leading me to do for awhile…and I am finally answering the call.